Hypo help…
Morning Randy,
<<he has been diabetic for about 22 yrs. and has NO complications!
Then he should be also be commended. To the degree it is possible to effect those factors (complications), he’s succeeded. Damned nice job.
Ok, NOW, another factor you both need to consider is the little nightmare known as ~hypoglycemic unawareness~. Does he have the same signals, the same “alarm bells” (and to the same degree) he did when he was younger? People with his background/experience are prime candidates for it. (If it iss that is something that is easily reversible btw…)
As for killing off brain cells <gentle smirk
Regarding your nuts by the bedside…. Nuts are probably not the best protein source if you’re trying to stop/head off a low. Cold cuts are probably easier and a higher source of protein. IMHO-fwiw, the fat content of many nuts may slow the digestion too much to be useful, and worse, how can you figure out just how many to eat? 2, the whole jar…. Consider something more substancial in terms of a snack. However, cutting back across the board in terms of his insulin will be the best method.
<<if he is sleeping too soundly, he may not wake up to munch!
Ok, nuts will NOT prevent him from bottoming out, as you’re describing it.
<<he feels that he doesn’t “need” his wife to monitor him.
YOU ARE 100% CORRECT. He does not <shrug
However, you were given a seat at this table because you do love him… are his wife, his lover the mother of his children.. and his friend. For you it is far harder than it will ever be for him, or another diabetic. They live it, you at the heart of it can only watch. A voyeur to a horrible problem. And the control all strive for, (some way too aggressively), has another side. If you read the synopsis of the DCCT (Diabetic Complications and Control Trail) it states VERY clearly (in the “small print”) that as the result of much tighter control there is also a much higher proportion (30% ?) of people who will REQUIRE external help with their lows.
It is a double edged sword, and make no mistake it is a sword. Diabetes is a sleepy dragon, it cares nothing for alacrity or vigilance. Any time it is given the opportunity it wakes and trys to incinerate anything in its path. The game is to keep it in its ~proverbial cave~ and laugh at it from time to time.
<<I just can’t imagine how I can continue on like this– it is like walking on eggshells.
Dear lady <in a most respectful, gentle and reverent manner
<<Last summer, when at a family picnic,
Welcome to the club…. you have the genuine love and support of people whom you have never met… most you will likely never meet in person. This disease is a horrible burden. Those who forget that… or ignore it, get severely burned…. the best ANYONE can do (IMHO-fwiw), is to pay attention, “stay awake” and ~stand watch~.
<<PLUS, he agreed to wear a diabetic chain- did so for about a couple weeks and then that was that.
That’s “silly” (sic. stupid)… and dangerous. Here’s where your anger might prove useful. Will he wear jewelry, gold, sterling? What’s your take on his logic?
I know, I know… male… logic… not typically compatible <wg
All in all, sounds a little bit like ~burnout~ in some ways. For both of you…. if there is a way you can learn to laugh at it… I suspect it will help.
They are my opinions, they could easily be mistaken…
Jeff